Too many people just react and speak without stopping to think about how their words can come across to the person they are addressing. Lately I’ve been getting messages from others in the book industry that obviously were sent without the writer thinking of how their words could be received. Their words come across as rude and presumptuous. My reaction? Not what the writer was looking for.
One writer approached me for a book review. When I accepted his book, he continued to inform me that the cover of one of my books was poorly done and would be glad to do another one for me. I’m sorry, but I don’t see how that could ever be perceived as polite. In fact, it was quite rude. What would he say if I told him that? The result? I’m not reviewing his book. He just lost a possibly positive review because he didn’t stop and think about what he said before he hit the send button. He should have kept his mouth shut.
Another author requested a book review. Then told me that my site was too beneath her book. From there, she began to trash me online and on Amazon. Not a good way to get readers. She just got on my do not work with list.
Now, I do want to say that this happens in all aspects of life. I got an email from an aunt just yesterday that was very condescending and rude. Discovered she didn’t mean it that way, but…wow! It came across that way to anyone who read it. Fights can start over such things.
The point here is to remind you to watch what you say in your communications. Don’t write something and just send it off. Let it set and come back to it. You’ll find mistakes and where you worded something wrong. Have someone else read it especially if it is a sensitive topic or extremely important. It is never a bad idea to have a second set of eyes. Always go with better safe than sorry. Remember that you can’t take it back. Damage done could be permanent and bite you in the rear later. Burning bridges is rarely a good thing especially when you are wanting to move forward in your career.